Thoughts of The Day
Saturday, July 5, 2008
Investasi Hati
Wah, di-itung2 gue udah lama banget yah ga nge-blog. Maklumlah, lagi males! Padahal pikiran-pikiran yg ingin dituangkan itu selalu ada. Mgkn juga gara-gara kebanyakan donlot yah akhir2, mentang2 internet gue sekarang di-itung unlimited.
Eniwei, kemaren dia sempet cerita tentang dua orang temannya yg baru putus. Gue bisa bayangin lah sedihnya kyk apa: secara gue sendiri udah pernah merasakan ga enaknya perasaan ini sehabis putus. Ga penting mo siapa yg mutusin ato diputusin, toh hasilnya yah sama aja: sakit hati!!! Rasanya ada yg ngeganjel di dada ini, pokoknya ga nyaman bgt deh.
Menjalani sebuah relationship yg baru akan memasuki tahun ketiga, bisa kebayang khan brp banyak “sandungan2” yg sudah gue lewati sama dia. Ada aja kejadian2 yg menyebabkan kesalah-pahaman dan keributan di antara kita berdua. Bahkan pikiran untuk menyudahi hubungan inipun pernah terlintas karena perbedaan2 yg ada di antara kita berdua yg berakibat keluarnya kata ‘putus’.
Herannya justru pada saat gue akan kehilangan dia, gue baru sadar betapa pentingnya dia dalam hidup gue. Dan pada saat itu kok semua hal-hal indah yg pernah dia lakukan terlintas begitu aja seperti klip-klip yg terus menerus flashback. Untungnya dia juga merasakan hal yg sama waktu itu.
(Gue pernah menulis tentang EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT sebelumnya. Di saat2 genting seperti inilah gue merasakan ‘tabungan-tabungan’ itu sangat berguna bagi kedua belah pihak. Ga kebayang deh kalo ‘tabungan’ kita minim, mungkin sekarang gue udah balik jomblo lagi dan sibuk browsing kenalan sana sini… Wekekekekekekeeee)
Sehingga akhirnya kita berdua bersedia duduk bareng dan membicarakan masalah yg ada dengan kepala dingin, dan akhirnya menyepakati kompromi-kompromi yg kita sepakati bersama.
Herannya setiap habis berkompromi, kok gue rasanya lebih lega yah. Rasanya “TITIK TENGAH” yg dicari dalam hubungan ini semakin dekat. Yg gue maksud dengan “titik tengah dalam berhubungan” adalah suatu titik dimana masing-masing pihak rela melepaskan kepentingan dan kenyamanan diri sendiri untuk kepentingan bersama dalam melangsungkan sebuah hubungan. Kerasa ga, makin lama kita berhubungan makin berkurang kita ribut2nya?
Gue merasa menjalani sebuah hubungan itu seperti melakukan sebuah investasi. Makin lama sebuah hubungan itu berjalan, makin banyak yg kita investasikan: materi, waktu dan emotional. Sehingga bila sampai gagal, makin banyak yg kita hilang.
Orang-orang pada bilang: “Cari pacar itu susah!”
Tapi gue kok merasa bahwa tantangan sebenarnya adalah bagaimana kita mempertahankan dan memupuk hubungan yg telah ada supaya bisa awet dan terus tumbuh lebih baik.
Entah brp banyak lagi sandungan2 yg menunggu di depan. Gue sih ga mau kebanyakan mikir, yang penting jalanin aja apa yg udah ada di depan mata sebaik mungkin.
Monday, March 24, 2008
Broken Hearted Club
I was driving to my office this morning along the toll road, while listening to some music from my Ipod in the car. With the shuffle mode on, the music was playing randomly. Well, don’t you just love this gadget and be thankful of how much it has made your life easier and more fun? It’s like bringing a jukebox that carries thousands of songs with the size of your the palm? Just think about it if a music freak like me have to bring stacks of CDs into my car.
Anyway, I stumbled on one of my old time favourites: “Almost Over You” by Sheena Easton. While listening to the lyrics, I couldn’t stop myself from smiling:
Almost Over You (by Sheena Easton)
I saw an old friend of ours today
She asked about you, I didn't quite know what to say
Heard youv'e been making the rounds 'round here
While I've been trying to make tears disappear
Chorus:
Now I'm almost over you, I've almost shook these blues
So when you come back around after painting the town
You'll see I'm almost over you...
You're such a sly one with your cold, cold heart
Maybe leavin' came easy, but it tore me apart
Time heals all wounds they say and I should know
'Cause it seems like forever, but I'm letting you go
(chorus)
I can forgive you and soon I'll forget all my shattered dreams
Although you left me with nothing to show, full of misery
( chorus )
When you come back around, after painting the town
You'll see I'm almost over you...
See… Now you can see why I am smiling. I find the lyrics are just so unbearable, hopeless and totally pathetic. If someone ever sings this song in front of me whole-heartedly at the moment, I definitely would shout at that person: GET A LIFE!!!
But to think again, if I were broken hearted right now, this song would have been the greatest “soundtrack of my life”: playing it over and over again feeling moody, so sad and blue, and thinking that I am the most unfortunate person in this world, and that I deserve everybody’s pitiful glance and treatment.
Ugh… Knock, knock… touch wood…!!!
Friday, December 28, 2007
What should I do to marry a rich guy?
Something I got from my sister and found it very interesting to share with you all. So here it goes:
A young and pretty lady posted this on a popular forum:
Title: What should I do to marry a rich guy?
I'm going to be honest of what I'm going to say here. I'm 25 this year. I'm very pretty, have style and good taste. I wish to marry a guy with $500k
annual salary or above. You might say that I'm greedy, but an annual salary of $1M is considered only as middle class in New York . My requirement is
not high. Is there anyone in this forum who has an income of $500k annual salary? Are you all married? I wanted to ask: what should I do to marry
rich persons like you? Among those I've dated, the richest is $250k annual income, and it seems that this is my upper limit. If someone is going to
move into high cost residential area on the west of New York City Garden ( ? ) , $250k annual income is not enough.
I'm here humbly to ask a few questions:
1) Where do most rich bachelors hang out? (Please list down the names and addresses of bars, restaurant, gym)
2) Which age group should I target?
3) Why most wives of the riches is only average-looking? I've met a few girls who doesn't have looks and are not interesting, but they are able to marry rich guys.
4) How do you decide who can be your wife, and who can only be your girlfriend? (my target now is to get married)
Ms. Pretty
Here's a reply from a Wall Street Financial guy:
Dear Ms. Pretty,
I have read your post with great interest. Guess there are lots of girls out there who have similar questions like yours. Please allow me to analyze
your situation as a professional investor. My annual income is more than $500k, which meets your requirement, so I hope everyone believes
that I'm not wasting time here.
From the standpoint of a business person, it is a bad decision to marry you. The answer is very simple, so let me explain. Put the details aside,
what you're trying to do is an exchange of "beauty" and "money": Person A provides beauty, and Person B pays for it, fair and square. However,
there's a deadly problem here, your beauty will fade, but my money will not be gone without any good reason. The fact is, my income might increase from
year to year, but you can't be prettier year after year. Hence from the viewpoint of economics, I am an appreciation asset, and you are a depreciation asset.
It's not just normal depreciation, but exponential depreciation. If that is your only asset, your value will be much worried 10 years later.
By the terms we use in Wall Street, every trading has a position, dating with you is also a "trading position". If the trade value dropped we will sell it
and it is not a good idea to keep it for long term same goes with the marriage that you wanted. It might be cruel to say this, but in order to make a wiser decision
any assets with great depreciation value will be sold or "leased". Anyone with over $500k annual income is not a fool; we would only date you, but will not marry you.
I would advice that you forget looking for any clues to marry a rich guy. And by the way, you could make yourself to become a rich person with $500k annual income.
This has better chance than finding a rich fool. Hope this reply helps.
If you are interested in "leasing" services, do contact me
signed,